Divorce and Visitation: The Basics

Divorce and Visitation: The Basics

If you’re thinking about divorcing, you’re probably also concerned about how much time you’ll be able to spend with your kids. That’s normal and natural. Here’s what you need to know: the parenting plan that you create with your soon-to-be-ex spouse will become a court order. That’s an important part of the divorce process. So, a parenting plan requires a good deal of thought and planning. It’s your family’s blueprint until the kids go to college or leave home for other pursuits. And it’s entirely doable.

Goodbye Weekend Warrior Mentality

In this day and age, the courts view both parents as important people in the lives of kids. Weekend warrior parenting is long gone. Men are equals as caregivers and providers for their kids, and if you’re a guy you have a right to equally raise your children after divorce if you wish to do so.

The Kind of Parenting Plan that Helps the Kids

Although it’s very stressful to change everything from a one family home to a two-family parenting setup, with a good attorney and good advice from today’s parenting coaches, it’s not impossible to move forward with a lot of grace and positive energy for you and your kids. Think of it as setting up new households that are just as full of kid love as the one household that used to be. Your attorneys can help you design a parenting plan that will:

  • creatively address scheduling issues for multiple children
  • strengthen and deepen the parent/child bond
  • make sure you have a good vacation with your children every year
  • create holiday schedules that are fair for everyone
  • and a lot more!

A Predictable Parenting Schedule is A Good Thing

One of the most important factors to take into consideration when designing your parenting plan is predictability for your kids. Psychological research on children of divorce shows that consistency helps anchor children in a psychologically safe place after their parents split. Our attorneys stay on top of the research literature and we make it a point of helping you devise a plan that will serve your children well. We often work closely with child development experts to help you make great decisions for your family. And as parents ourselves, we understand.

Please call us today if you’d like to set up a pre-divorce consultation with one of our experienced attorneys here at DuBois Cary.

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