Have you ever pushed yourself to knock down the walls of your old comfort zones? Now’s the time! Life is changing – embrace it. If you say yes to the changes headed your way, chances are you’ll fare better in your divorce. When you’re working with your lawyer, you are going to have to make tough decisions and envision situations that are completely unknown. Here are some ways to reboot your mind and body so that you’ll be ready for anything that comes your way.
1. Learn what it’s like to be touched again. Yes, massage is good, but making eye contact is better. There is nothing like partner dancing to melt away your inhibitions, inspire your mind-body connection, and open up your eyes to the abundance of people and personalities outside of your old relationship. Go two-stepping on a Friday night at the Cuff. Sign up for Ballroom Dancing. Or go to a free Swing dance lesson at the Century Ballroom.
2. Dance. Dance. Dance. Crank the tunes and shake your booty in the privacy of your own room. There is always time to bust a move.
3. Take a pill. Yes, it’s a good idea to seek the advice of a therapist and check with your doc to see if meds are right for you. But, did you know that taking aspirin can alleviate heartache?
4. Read books to jumpstart your heart back open. Remember before you had kids? Before you had a demanding job? Before you had a mortgage? You probably used to sit and read books, like the ones they print on paper. Start doing that again!! But, ease into it by intentionally reading stuff that you never would have wanted to be caught reading in your old life – Oprah style stuff like this or this.
5. Be your own best company. When you’re ending a long relationship, you might find yourself forgetting what kinds of things you used to enjoy. Maybe you’ve forgotten how to strike up conversation with strangers because your partner did that? Maybe you no longer remember how to plan fun activities? Start creating your own adventures. Go hiking by yourself. Go to the movies by yourself. Go to dinner by yourself. And, if you’re having trouble motivating to do these things, I recommend this sure fire trick.
A relationship – good or bad – creates patterns that fit you like an old shoe. But, baby, it’s time for a new pair of shoes…Grab your lawyer. You got this.