Monica Kaup Cary

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Monica Kaup Cary

Location
Bellevue, Washington
Seattle, Washington
Phone
(425) 278-9542
(206) 547-1486
Areas of Practice
Family Law
Collaborative Law
Wills & Estate Planning
Fax
(206) 547-2074
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"Monica was a lifesaver when I most needed a steady voice and knowledgeable guidance through my divorce. From the time my ex-wife and I decided to separate to the final dissolution settlement, Monica always catered her level of help in my case to what I needed, while keeping me informed of legal necessities and options. Occasionally, throughout the divorce process, when I felt like I was at a legal disadvantage relative to my ex, Monica would point out opportunities where I could gain leverage. The truth is, good legal help isn't cheap, but Monica always kept my budget in mind and gave me choices to best use my money. She was well worth it. Not only was Monica a great choice for my legal representation, but everyone in her office, from the paralegals to the partners, were always gracious and helpful." ~Single Dad

While I do still occasionally take clients in Seattle, these days, you’ll mostly find me in our Bellevue-Redmond office.

My practice focuses on complex custody litigation, mediation, relationship agreements including marital agreements and cohabitation agreements, and estate planning for couples, individuals, and blended families. I began working with Amanda DuBois in 2004 and became a named partner in 2010. I am so proud of our robust, brilliant, hard-working, and big-hearted team.

I believe families rarely belong in the courtroom. You just can’t go wrong investing in the possibility of a peaceful resolution, but be prepared because the courtroom may be unavoidable. And, don’t underestimate outsmarting your opponent by thinking rationally, logically, and outside the box.

When I was going through a divorce, I found solace in these words. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” – Maya Angelou

In the courtroom, there are strategies that work and ones that don’t. I’ve been fortunate to experience the courtroom in a variety of settings. Prior to moving to Seattle, I was a judicial clerk to the Honorable Elizabeth Welch, Presiding Family Court Judge in Portland, Oregon. From 2013-2018, I was honored to serve as a Commissioner Pro Tempore in King County Superior Court. (Translation: I was a “sub” for sitting commissioners). As part of my Pro Tem work, I read an enormous amount of paperwork, analyzed each party’s requests, and sometimes lost sleep grappling with the sheer weight of the responsibility entrusted in me to make decisions about other people’s children and money. The imprint left from my experience on the bench has forever enhanced my own advocacy skills as well as provided me a deep appreciation of our excellent group of Family Court Commissioners in King County.

In addition, I am the 2018 Co-Chair of the Joint Asian Judicial Evaluation Committee. Along with other area attorneys, I volunteer my time and our firm’s resources to evaluate attorneys and sitting judges seeking appointment to the District Court, Superior Court, Court of Appeals, and Washington Supreme Court.

Volunteer work is a core value of mine. My parents immigrated to the United States from India. In addition to the standard academic stuff, my father instilled in me an unfailing work ethic and commitment to public service. I began regularly volunteering when I was fourteen years old (my older daughter did the same) and I don’t recall a time in my life when I stopped volunteering. Prior to attending law school, I volunteered with Americorps VISTA (the domestic Peace Corps). I was paid a small stipend and was assigned to work in Seattle with FamilyWorks, a family resource center and food bank in the Fremont/Wallingford area. I helped create an Employment Resource Center for customers of the food bank. I recruited workshop volunteers for the family resource center where they offered free workshops for adults and children on topics ranging from bookbinding, photography and cooking to intercultural parenting classes. During law school, I volunteered in a Senior Center where I participated in a “buddy” program for an elderly woman who had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.

For the past several years, I have served as a volunteer divorce mediator with the King County Superior Court. I am also a regular volunteer with legal clinics at the Muslim Association of Puget Sound, the City of Seattle, and the South Asian Bar Association. In addition to my individual pro bono cases, I serve as the family law mentor for API Chaya which provides me the opportunity to work with young lawyers and law students assisting immigrant women in the Seattle area. I am also the Co-Director of the South Asian Bar Alliance of Washington for 2018. Finally, as part of my estate planning practice, I am a frequent volunteer with the Washington First Responder’s Will Clinic which assists local police officers, firefighters, and law enforcement with pro bono estate planning. I am honored to have been selected to the 2019-2020 Board.

My career highlights include the successful return of a child who had been kidnapped overseas, obtaining a phased-in 50/50 parenting plan at trial for the father of an infant, negotiating multi-million dollar asset divisions, and assisting several elderly couples in resolving their divorces quickly and without court intervention. Highlights of my estate planning and probate career include volunteer efforts with the Washington First Responder’s Clinic, assisting new parents with their estate plan, and making it easier for busy adults to safely maximize the independence of their elderly parents. In addition, I feel privileged to have been chosen by my peers as a Super Lawyers Rising Star five years in a row (2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015). The Rising Stars designation is given to only 2.5% of the lawyers in the state of Washington.

Some little known facts about me – I am a sucker for letterpress stationery. My mom’s killer biryani will bring me to my knees. I detest having to wait for permission to kiss the elusive cheeks of my daughters. I make a mean lamb curry that even my predominantly vegetarian husband will eat. I believe divorce was a gift to me, my ex, and our daughter. I found love, a blended family, and a crazy sweet dog after divorce, and I believe love is awaiting every one of my clients.

Areas of Practice

  • Family Law
  • Collaborative Law
  • Wills & Estate Planning

Bar Admissions

  • Oregon, 2001
  • Washington, 2003

Education

  • Lewis and Clark College, Northwestern School of Law, Portland, Oregon
    • J.D. 2001
  • Franklin & Marshall College, Lancaster, Pennsylvania
    • B.A. 1997
    • Major: Government, Women’s Studies

Classes and Seminars

  • Panelist, Bridging the Gap Judges Panel, King County Bar Association, May 17, 2018
  • International Aspects of Parenting Plans – Virtual Visitation, King County Bar Association Family Law Section, April 3, 2010
  • Family Law Litigation Basics, Washington State Association for Justice, August 1, 2007

Published Works

  • Co-Author, South Asians in 2007 – Take Another Look, Washington State Bar Journal

Community Activities

  • Board Member (elect), Washington First Responder’s Will Clinic, 2019 – 2020
  • Commissioner Pro Tempore, King County Family Court, 2013 – 2018
  • Co-Chair, Joint Asian Judicial Evaluations Committee (JAJEC), 2018
  • Co-Director, South Asian Bar Alliance of Washington, 2018
  • Supervising Attorney, Family Legal Law Intern, API Chaya, 2013 – present
  • Volunteer Mediator, King County Volunteer Settlement Conferences, 2011 – present
  • Volunteer, First Responder’s Will Clinic, 2012 – present
  • Volunteer, Middle Eastern Law Association Clinic, present
  • Volunteer, South Asian Bar Association Clinic, present
  • Volunteer, Kinship Care Solutions Programs (past)
  • Volunteer, Advocates for Immigrant Justice (past)
  • Volunteer, Latina/o Bar Association Clinic, (past)
  • Volunteer, Americorps VISTA (past)
  • Volunteer, King County Prosecutor’s Office (past)
  • Volunteer, Seattle University’s Access to Justice Institute (past)
  • Volunteer, King County Bar Association’s Self Help Plus (past)

Professional Associations

  • South Asian Bar Association, Washington, Board Member, Secretary (past)
  • API Chaya, Member
  • King County Bar Association, Member
  • Washington State Bar Association, Family Law Section, Member
  • Washington State Bar Association, Probate and Real Property Law Section, Member
  • Washington State Bar Association, Alternative Dispute Resolution Section, Member
  • South Asian Bar Association of Washington, Board Member (past)
  • South Asian Bar Alliance of Washington, 2018 Co-Director

Prior Professional Experience

  • Hon. Elizabeth Welch, Presiding Family Court Judge, Portland, Oregon, Judicial Clerk
  • Pierce County Prosecuting Attorney’s Office, Deputy Prosecuting Attorney

Honors and Awards

  • Super Lawyers Rising Stars: 2011 – 2015
  • 5
    I don't know what I would do with out Lucia and Tania as my legal team. Lucia has been my lawyer for about 5 years. I would recommend her to anyone. She shows up for me completely prepared for the courtroom, is totally confident in her presentations and and is so knowledgeable. I can't thank them enough for all they have done.
  • 5
    The best legal team ever. They love their clients too. Thank you DuBois Cary Law Group for all your support and guidance. Monica Cary, and Michelle Fontenot are outstanding human beings and attorneys. The law firm has the friendliest and most efficient staff who genuinely care and offer world class assistance. Thank you Jason and Eldina for always taking the time for us.
  • 5
    While my ex and I had an almost wholly amicable split we felt completely unqualified to fairly divvy up our assets. Monica--in a single meeting--looked at the money and helped us reach an agreement we both felt was more than fair. She was relaxed, professional, knowledgeable and efficient. Couldn't have asked for me. I highly recommend her.
  • 5
    Michelle and Jason are not just extremely knowledgeable and efficient in family law, but also very caring and empathetic. Because of there experience and help, I have the schedule with my daughter I was fighting for and as a result can spend more time with her. Thank you both! I would highly recommend Michelle Fontenot to anyone in need of a family law attorney.

Areas We Serve

At DuBois Cary Law Group, PLLC, we represent clients from Seattle, Bellevue and King County
Washington. If you have any questions or concerns about your Family Law or Divorce issues,
please feel free to call us at (206) 547-1486. We are happy to schedule an appointment for you
to speak with one of our attorneys.


SEATTLE (Main office)
927 N Northlake Way
Suite 210
Seattle, WA 98103
Mon - Fri, 9am - 5pm
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BELLEVUE - REDMOND
2018 156th Avenue NE
Suite 307
Bellevue, WA 98007
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