Sometimes it takes a long time for a relationship to run its course. You’ve been a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, and even a solid supporter of making it work. But the decision has been made and they are splitting up. So, now what? It’s time to shift gears and help your friend learn the wonderful art of self-care.
Embrace your inner woo and share your hopes for your friend with a pick-me-up reminder. When my own 12 year marriage ended, some of these were the very first gifts I received from my bevy of strong women.
Here are a few of my favorite gift ideas to stimulate self-care to help your loved one get through a difficult time:
|1. Divorce is stressful. Serious scientific studies show that people lose more stuff when they are stressed. And, your dear friend, daughter, sister, brother, or loved one is likely to lose his or her keys A LOT more than before. Consider getting one a Tile. The tile is a genius device. It locks onto your key chain and connects to an app on your phone. You can use it for a purse, a phone, you name it.|
|2. Tea is always a good idea. My most difficult times seemed to hit on the days I didn’t have my child. I remember times when I couldn’t have even fixed myself a scrambled egg, but a cup of tea, I could handle. Not only is this tea tasty, but every time I pulled it out of the cabinet, I remembered that friends who live far away from me want good things for me. It helped.|
|3. Cooking for one doesn’t happen much the first year. When you’re stressed, it’s important to eat real food. Okay, this one is kinda always important, but it’s so easy to slip into chowing down on comfort foods when you’re getting a divorce and you can barely drag yourself out the front door. For most of us, making a poor food choice just adds one more layer of guilt to our days. Consider getting your friend a week of home cooked meals delivered straight to their doors.|
|4. Healing from a divorce starts the day you separate. Exercise makes you look and feel hotter than you were when you in that relationship. Get your friend a short-term gym membership to place that’s convenient and offers great fitness classes where your friend can create a new community. As one friend said to me on the day my divorce was final. “I hear happiness is the best revenge. Serve it cold.”|
|5. Clean up and smell something nice. Healing starts with clearing. Stop hate dead in its tracks with the gift of sage. Available everywhere from PCC and City People’s to Amazon. Or, give your friend some delightful smelling household cleaners. I like Mrs. Meyer’s Lemon Verbena dish soap and counter cleaner.|
|And, if you want something more practical, don’t forget, there is the gift of paying for a consultation with a divorce lawyer or mediator. To contact my office, call (206) 547-1486.|